Does Divorce Make Us Stronger?

You know the old saying, “That which doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”?  Well, since we’ve all survived our Divorces Over 50, has that process made us stronger?  Are we tougher, more resilient, better able to cope with the vicissitudes of life we’ll face going forward? 

That’s the argument Lisa Arends makes on her “Lessons From the End of a Marriage” blog, writing that the demands of a Divorce make us grow, the pain leaves a mark, and we come through a different person — a better person.

Lisa cites ten areas in which the divorce process helps us grow, including:

  • Confidence.  It gets shattered as you endure a divorce and then try to resume dating, but once you make it through, you see how strong you can be.
  • Gratitude.  The loss you suffer in a divorce helps you appreciate what you do have, particularly the friends who support and stick by you.
  • Responsibility.  You no longer have a co-pilot, you’re totally responsible for yourself.  But that’s good, as only you can make the changes you need to make.
  • Wisdom.  Divorce offers an opportunity for reflection and analysis, the raw emotions making us particularly ready to listen and learn.

Her piece is in perfect sync with the point of this blog:  no matter how you came to be Divorced Over 50, it’s an opportunity to hit the reset button, get back to being the person you want to be, and look forward to what comes next in your life.  Divorce isn’t easy, it’s not ideal, but you can come through it and end up better than you were before.