In the book, you’ll find 18 candid interviews in which other Divorced Over 50’s speak openly about their marriages, their divorces, and their recoveries.
If you’re going through a DO50, you’ll see that your feelings are not unique. You’ll be able to learn from the experiences of others — their successes and their failures. And you’ll see that many of them have made it through the difficulties and pain, and are now moving forward into their brighter future.
And if you’re Di-Curious, these stories can provide a wealth of information to help you make your huge decision: Will I be better off if I get out?
I did another interview with Silke Schwarzkopf of 2ndAct.tv — this time about Gray Divorce Stories. I hope you’ll take a look. And I encourage you to spend some time at 2ndAct.tv. There’s a lot of important content covering all aspects of being this age, including Health & Wellness, Love & Sex, Fitness & Fashion, and Purpose & Passion.
In working your way through your Divorce Over 50, there will almost certainly be times when you’re unhappy, stressed, and feeling low. And that’s why a meal like the one pictured above can be exactly what you need.
But, because you know it’s vitally important to maintain your health as you move toward your brighter future, you recognize that a Triple-Triple and fries should be a real rarity. And that for the vast majority of meals you need to eat smart.
Susan Brown co-wrote a very influential academic paper about Divorce Over 50 entitled “The Gray Divorce Revolution: Rising Divorce among Middle-Aged and Older Adults, 1990-2-10.” You can read it here.
If you’re not into dry, dense documents that include phrases like “The present study also attends to heterogeneity in the divorce experience of today’s middle- aged and older adults by estimating divorce rates across sociodemographic subgroups and examining key correlates of divorce,” maybe you’d like to listen to Dr. Brown in this interview with NPR. (There’s also a transcript of the interview if you’d prefer to read it).
If you ask a man over 50 for the first word that pops into his head when you say “sex,” he’d very likely answer with something like Yes, Now, Please, or More. It wouldn’t matter if he was single, happily married, or unhappily married – most men would have that positive, or at least hopeful, reaction.
But what if you asked an over 50 woman the same thing?
For a plenty of married woman beyond 50 — those who are in that standard, three or more decade long relationship — their first word just might be “obligation.” As in, my husband expects it, I don’t really want it, but I’ll submit occasionally, in hopes of keeping him happy. Or getting him to mow the lawn.
And for unhappily married women past 50, their word is probably something along the lines of No, Nope, Nah-ah, or Fugetaboutit.
But what if you asked a divorced woman over 50 for the first word that pops into her head? Well, there’s an excellent chance that word is “Yahoo!”
How do I, a divorced man over 50, know this?
Hours and hours of intimate contact with almost two dozen divorced women over 50.
If you’re still looking for a New Years resolution that will pay off big time, how about becoming a “Superager”?
So what’s a Superager? It’s someone of an advanced age who’s still got a mind like a person many decades younger. And though that’s a worthy goal regardless of marital status, Divorced Over 50’s have even more motivation, as we’ve got that brighter future coming, and want to fully enjoy it (Right?).
There’s a catch, though: It takes hard work, and you’ve got to push yourself through some pain.
So, did you come through the Thanksgiving Holiday okay?
If it’s your first one since your Divorce Over 50, it was probably rough. Even if it was your sixth, as it was for me, it still doesn’t feel quite right. My young adult children were in town, and this was my year to have them join my family’s Thanksgiving dinner. Which was great. But it’s still odd to be sharing them with my ex-wife, as they spent some nights at my place, and some at hers. It’s strange to hear about them going to a “Second Night of Thanksgiving” at her and her new husband’s house. And I missed being in a home on Thanksgiving Day when the meal was being cooked — I used to revel in the smells, the warmth, just the whole feel of that experience.
And now, the Christmas/Hanukkah/Kwanza/New Years Holidays loom.
I recently did a series of interviews with Silke Schwarzkopf, the Executive Producer of 2ndAct.tv. Silke’s site contains a ton of videos that will be of tremendous interest to Divorced Over 50 users. I encourage you to explore 2ndAct.tv, and benefit from the important content you’ll find there.
In the videos offered here, we discuss such topics as the genesis of DivorcedOver50.com, how common Divorce is among our age group, and some of the warning signs that a DO50 may be coming up.
Technology has changed so many aspects of our lives, and dating is no exception.
For many Divorced Over 50’s, the last time you dated involved a phone call over a land line, or perhaps a note written on a piece of lined notebook paper.
There’s no doubt that the new technology can make dating much easier, and give you many more opportunities to meet someone. But it would be a mistake to jump into that brave new world without doing some preparation.
To really increase the flow of information you’re receiving on this topic, may we suggest you visit (and hopefully become a regular reader of) the Positive Health Wellness website?
The site is extremely comprehensive, with pages covering Diet & Nutrition, Recipes, Fitness, Beauty & Aging, and Pain Relief. It also offers a ton of Infographics. Because the site is aimed at basically everyone, you will have to search a bit for content that applies to your specific needs and interests. Just looking at its front page as of this writing, DO50 readers will have no need for a piece about Nutrition for Breastfeeding Moms, but may be interested in Workouts You Can Do Without Weights.
And when you find an article of interest, you’re going to get more facts and details than you could have imagined. Let’s say you’ve heard a lot of talk about the benefits of coconut oil, and want to get more information. Well, a quick search on Positive Health Wellness will turn up a number of pieces, including this Ultimate Guide to Coconut Oil, which clocks in at over 4000 words, plus multiple infographics. (Spoiler alert: That stuff is good for you).
So take a look at Positive Health Wellness, and make sure to bookmark it. The site could be a really valuable resource to you now, and for many years to come (if you follow its recommendations…).