Great News DO50’s: The Best Sex of Your Life Awaits

For many people going through a Divorce Over 50, sex is not a pressing issue. Most are just too consumed...

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Embrace Your Divorce to Find Your Brighter Future

The overriding goal of Divorced Over 50 is to help everyone move through his or her Divorce and into a...

Guidance For the Adult Children of Divorce

A Divorce Over 50 not only impacts the couple, it also affects their adult children. We’ve addressed the Adult Children...

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Eat This, Not That, For Better Sex

Are your familiar with the “Eat This, Not That” website? It’s perhaps best known for analyzing the nutritional value (or...

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Take Care of Yourself – You Deserve It!

If there’s any time in your life when self-care is called for, it’s when going through a Divorce. The process...

Di-Curious: Is Your Marriage Sick, Or Is It Dead?

Much of the Di-Curious content on this site concerns the future — in other words, if you do decide to...

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Just When You Thought Your Divorce Was Final…

Signing your final Divorce papers can bring on a whole range of emotions. Anger, relief, fear, disappointment, unhappiness, plus many...

Dating After a Divorce Over 50 (Video)

Are you ready to start dating? Many Divorced Over 50’s resume dating at some point, though others do not —...

Male Sexuality Over 50 — Somewhat Complicated, Too

Last post was about female sexuality Over 50; now it’s the guys’ turn. And just as the post regarding women...

Our New Novel Has Just Been Released!

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Available on Amazon, GOING UP is a work of fiction, but it’s based on the lessons of my own Divorce Over 50, the research I’ve done for this site, and the many other DO50’s I’ve connected with.

It’s a fun, easy read, following the lives of six divorced people in their fifties, each moving toward their better future, but traveling at different speeds and hitting different pot holes.

Beyond their relationship status, they deal with other pressures we know so well, like hanging onto or starting a new career, caring for elderly parents, getting kids launched, and the health issues we see crop up.

Please check it out here.

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Our collection of interviews, Gray Divorce Stories: The Truth About Getting Divorced Over 50 From Men and Women Who’ve Done it, is available on Amazon.

In the book, you’ll find 18 candid interviews in which other Divorced Over 50’s speak openly about their marriages, their divorces, and their recoveries.

If you’re going through a DO50, you’ll see that your feelings are not unique. You’ll be able to learn from the experiences of others — their successes and their failures. And you’ll see that many of them have made it through the difficulties and pain, and are now moving forward into their brighter future.

And if you’re Di-Curious, these stories can provide a wealth of information to help you make your huge decision: Will I be better off if I get out?

More information on the book is available here.

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Get your own free download of the new “Roadmap Through a Divorce Over 50.”

It’s your guide through the three stages of DO50:

Survive… Revive… Thrive

Each stage consists of several steps. They are all discussed briefly, and over 90 links are provided offering more detailed information.

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As we all know, human sexuality can be complicated. Then, when you’re Over 50, it can get additionally complicated. And for women Over 50, due to both societal factors and their own physiology, it can become more complicated still.

Though plenty of mature Divorced women are finding their sexuality reignited (see our January post “Sex and the Single Woman Over 50”), that isn’t always the case. Both the “mind” and the “body” issues that come into play Over 50 can have a negative effect.

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Having to tell your family and friends you’re getting Divorced can be a surprisingly difficult part of the process. At a really awful time in your life, when you’re already dealing with all the turmoil and fear and uncertainty, one of the last things you may want is to run into a friend at Starbucks who asks, “So what’s new?”

Author Wendy Paris, writing for Psychology Today’s website, believes that the act of telling others about your split is actually a great opportunity. She explains that marriages exist within communities, and members of those communities can be confused by a Divorce. So the way you break the news helps the community see how you’re viewing it, and lets them know what to expect.

Would you like the opportunity to ask over 30 relationship experts for their Top Tips on coping with a Divorce?

Well, I can’t offer you that, but luckily someone else did ask, and their answers are presented here in a well organized list.

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If you’re Di-Curious, have you thought about how you’ll tell your husband or wife you want out, if in fact you decide to Divorce?

And for those who’ve already been through it, how’d you handle the situation, whether you were the giver or receiver of the news? Did that initial statement/conversation get your process off to a reasonable start, or did it dial up the anger and set a negative tone that lasted the entire process?

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Did you feel shame about getting Divorced?

Did you blame yourself and/or your ex, wallowing in negativity that builds upon itself, feeling depressed, angry, and resentful?

Or, did you accept that you may have made some bad choices, but you’re a good person, who will move forward with a positive mindset?

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Most Divorced Over 50’s report that their sex life during marriage, particularly toward the end of it, was extremely lacking. In fact, several of the interviewees for Gray Divorce Stories acknowledged going years without having any sex as their marriages fell apart.

Then, when DO50’s are first out of their marriage, the focus is just trying to keep their head above water while battling through the Survive Phase — sex may be among the furthest things from their minds. As life gets better, however, and they move into Revive, an interest in sex may come back. The problem, though, is that many people aren’t ready to get into a committed relationship that will lead to sex. So what to do?

How about casual sex?

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Did you make a Bucket List after your Divorce?

That probably wasn’t a priority during the early, Survive Phase of your process. But as you began (or will begin) to Revive, creating a Bucket List could be an important, and valuable, exercise. Just the act of looking forward to a brighter future, and setting some goals within that future, could help you Thrive sooner. Even if you eventually only check off a few of the goals, you’ll still be so much better off.

If you ask a man over 50 for the first word that pops into his head when you say “sex,” he’d very likely answer with something like Yes, Now, Please, or More. It wouldn’t matter if he was single, happily married, or unhappily married – most men would have that positive, or at least hopeful, reaction.

But what if you asked an over 50 woman the same thing?

For a plenty of married woman beyond 50 — those who are in that standard, three or more decade long relationship — their first word just might be “obligation.” As in, my husband expects it, I don’t really want it, but I’ll submit occasionally, in hopes of keeping him happy. Or getting him to mow the lawn.

And for unhappily married women past 50, their word is probably something along the lines of No, Nope, Nah-ah, or Fugetaboutit.

But what if you asked a divorced woman over 50 for the first word that pops into her head? Well, there’s an excellent chance that word is “Yahoo!”

How do I, a divorced man over 50, know this?

Hours and hours of intimate contact with almost two dozen divorced women over 50.

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For many of us, our Divorce Over 50 is the first time we’ve ever had to deal with an attorney. Yep, just one more thing about it that really sucks.

So at a terrible time in your life, with all sorts of stress and emotion and pressure, you have to navigate that new, confusing, scary, and expensive world of Divorce lawyers.