What About the Friends?

When a couple I knew got divorced, the wife basically told their friends, “It’s him or me.  Make a choice.” Not surprisingly, as no one likes an ultimatum, most of the friends went with him.

Christine Gallagher, writing for Huffington Post, offers Seven Tips on How to Share Friends After a Divorce. Most require very open communication with your ex, and I’m not sure how likely that is.  More below the jump…

In addition to those suggestions, the article reprints a letter a woman sent to their mutual friends, asking that they please continue to invite her to events.  She acknowledges, however, that she’s not ready to be around her ex yet, and requests that they let her know in advance if he’ll be attending so she can decide what to do.

What do you think of that strategy?  What issues have you run in to in maintaining your friendships?