Because they never age in the show, Homer and Marge Simpson are not in our demographic. But the show’s been on 26 years, and they had to be thirtyish when it started, so I say it’s fair to claim that in “reality” they’re Over 50. And sure enough, in the upcoming season, they’ll legally separate, with Homer falling in love with someone else.
This plot development could simply be viewed as a way to spice up a show that’s been around since Bush 41 (and may have seen its best years during Clinton 42). Or, as The Atlantic does, you can be infuriated because this choice is blowing up the longest-running marriage on TV. The writer, Megan Garber, cites the “reacher-settler” theory, saying that in all relationships one party is reaching for someone beyond what he or she merits (Homer), while the other party settles for someone not as good as he or she deserves (Marge).
Ms. Garber likes that the disconnect between Homer and Marge is a source of humor in the show. She cites a few other shows with a similar reacher-settler situation (King of Queens, Family Guy, Modern Family) in which that fact is just accepted, not used for laughs and not remarked upon. Her concern is that with Homer and Marge split, The Simpsons will be just like the others that accept very worthy women settling for undeserving men (somehow I think it’ll all work out prior to Clinton 45).
It’s a quick read, and worth taking a look at. Moreover, I think the reacher-settler theory is worth discussing. To me, I reject the idea that it occurs in every relationship. Really? That seems far-fetched.
But what do you think? Let’s discuss in the comments. And beyond that, were you a reacher or a settler in your marriage? Are you approaching dating and new relationships differently now? If you were one of those before, are you comfortable being it again, or are you trying to switch it up? Let’s hear from you!