Getting a Divorce Over 50 creates any number of worries: you worry about how it will affect your children, what it’ll do to friendships, the hit your financial future will take. And you worry about whether you’ll ever find someone to love again. As it turns out, that Divorce Over 50 may allow you to find the greatest love of your life.
At least that’s how it worked out for writer Steve Meltzer, who shares his story in this article from Next Avenue. Meltzer, 64, describes how his once high-flying career collapsed, creating tensions and reopening old wounds at home. With his marriage falling apart, he reconnected with an acquaintance from high school, one thing led to another, they moved in together while his divorce was underway, and got married once it was final.
Meltzer says he’s had three true loves in his life, but due to his age and experience this one is the best. Having gone through a failed marriage, he knows better than to expect perfection. He adds that his new wife was able to see him as more than a career washout, finding the true him “inside the shabby shell.” Additionally, being older has made them both wiser, and more tolerant of the other’s shortcomings.
Piggybacking on this piece, it’s worth mentioning that a DO50 probably has a better sense of him or herself now than 20 or 30 years ago. Perhaps that true self was suppressed in the marriage, but now, Divorced, it can flourish. Being one’s true self, putting that person out to the world, and knowing better what one wants in a partner, can all help the DO50 not only find a new love, but maybe the love of a lifetime.