Dating in Real Life (as Opposed to On-line)

The last time many Over 50’s dated, on-line wasn’t an option — we had to do it the old fashioned way. And maybe going that way again isn’t such a bad idea.

On a scale of nine to ten, how much anxiety do you feel about getting naked for the first time with a new man?

Guys, would you like to know ten things you absolutely must avoid in order to succeed at on-line dating?

Here’s a piece offering five suggestions for keeping the sex going as we get older. The attached picture should tip you off to one of them.

The writer, Dr. Dorree Lynn, makes such a great point with Number One: Foreplay should start first thing in the morning and continue all day, as you express your affection for each other though words, caresses, and deeds. That paves the way for the trust and closeness that leads naturally to the intimacy. Other good ideas in the piece, too; check it out…

Lisa Copeland is a dating coach who specializes in women Over 50. In this piece, she offers advice on making sure your body language is conveying the message you want it to, and how to read the messages his body language is sending back. The article is aimed at women, but guys can benefit from it, too.

As if you needed more incentive, here are 9 reasons you should have more sex. Seriously, doctors and science-types contributed to this list. It’s totally legit. And look, it’s not only listed in our Dating, Romance, & Sex section, it’s even in the Health & Fitness section.

A couple weeks back we featured an article about Over 50 dating deal breakers, including poor health, financial instability, and lack of attractiveness.

In this piece, dating Coach Ronnie Ann Ryan references that survey, but takes it a step further. She points out that one can never know whose health will turn bad or who will suffer a financial turnaround, but suggests that her female clients should avoid men who are already on the road to those problems. She offers tips for bumping up one’s attractiveness, both physically and spiritually, and concludes with some words of wisdom about unrealistic expectations. Fairly basic, ladies, but worth a look…

From Erica of A Sexy Woman of a Certain Age, a really interesting piece about the right way to have casual sex. Pointing out that casual sex isn’t the same as meaningless sex, Erica says it’s all about treating each other with dignity, honesty, and respect. She argues that everyone needs sex, but not everyone needs a serious, committed relationship. As long as both parties know the ground rules, the result can be a wonderful erotic mix of lust and integrity, and there’s nothing hotter than that.

Joe Seldner writes on a variety of topics for Huffington Post, but quite often about dating and romance for Over 50’s.

Here are two pieces from him, one on Dating Tips For Men Over 50, and Dating Advice For Women Over 50.

For the men, his advice is pretty basic: be positive and listen. His tips for women are more complicated, including topics such as body image, money, sex, and control. In other words, he seems to be saying men are simple, while women are complex. Anyone disagree?

Remember this lyric from the 1964 Betty Everett song, “It’s in His Kiss”?

“If you wanna know if he loves you so
It’s in his kiss (that’s where it is, oh yeah)”

Not to argue with that intuitive, and time-tested, line, but what if you haven’t kissed yet, and are wondering if you ever will? Well, thanks to researchers in the UK, there may be a clue: listen very closely to his voice. Their study says that when speaking to a woman he finds attractive, a man will lower his voice, and use more rising and falling inflection. So ladies, if his speech becomes deeper and more sing-songy, he is warm for your form (or he’s got something caught in his throat…).

Additionally, they found that women are naturally more attracted to men who speak that way. So it’s a win-win.