Four Traits of a “Keeper”

The first marriage didn’t work out. And now you’ve met someone new, someone great, someone who could be “The One.” But how can you know for sure?

Okay, we’re all adults here, right? So let’s speak frankly: Many Divorced Over 50 types went two or three decades with just one sexual partner, their spouse. (or, if they had other partners, perhaps that’s why they are now Divorced Over 50…). And in that time, certain styles, and trends, and norms have changed. Which, as we older folks begin new relationships that include intimacy, can cause some anxiety. As in, so what the hell am I supposed to do with my pubic hair?

The blog “A Sexy Woman of a Certain Age” is run by Erica, a woman in her fifties, who created the site “to ignite a conversation about the sexual power of boomer women.”

This particular post is an interview with boudoir photographer Lori Berkowitz about why she prefers shooting women over 50. There are photos included; depending on where you happen to W, the shots may be NSF.

And ladies, when you are in a non-work situation, be sure to check out the entire blog. Erica has provided a wealth of interesting and valuable information. (Guys, no need to tell you to check it out — you’re probably clicking the link at this very moment…)

From Health.com, 8 Reasons Sex is Better After 50. What, they couldn’t come up with 10 reasons? Who ever heard of a “Top 8” List?

Come on, let’s see if we can round out this list. We just need two more. Use the Comments section below to add your suggestion.

Lisa Copeland, who runs the Find a Quality Man website, calls herself “The dating coach who makes finding love after 50 fun and easy.” Lisa came to be an expert the old-fashioned way: she earned it. Frustrated by the men she was meeting after a divorce, she immersed herself in everything she could find about dating, and in less than a year was seeing the kind of quality men she’d been hoping to meet. Soon friends were asking for guidance, and next thing she knew a business was born.

Wanted to mix it up with a video about dating Over 50. And frankly, most of what’s out there is very amateurish, people just talking into the camera, not making a whole lot of sense, losing track of where they are in their list of points, even getting interrupted by barking dogs.

This video from 2ndAct.tv is a very well done, professional piece. It features a few men talking with an interviewer about what they’re looking for, and a group of women discussing their experiences with a (male) therapist. It’s worth the six minutes or so to take a look (and you won’t need your reading glasses!).

From the Ann Brenhoff of the Huffington Post, 25 Dating Turn Offs that come up when you’re Over 50. Can’t say any of these ever happened to me, and am proud to say I never committed any of these faux pas, either. (I actually checked, and the plural of “faux pas” is spelled the same as the singular. If you were saying it, though, singular is pronounced foh-PAH, while the plural is pronounced foh-PAHZ — see all the great info you get on this site?)

Regardless, it’s a cute, short piece, so check it out. Have you committed one of these? Or had one happen to you? Please discuss in the Comments on the next page by clicking Read More…

As we just dealt with improving male sexual response, it’s now the ladies’ turn (and we’ll pass up the obvious joke opportunities…). You may have heard that an FDA panel has recommended approval of the drug Flibanserin, popularly known as Female Viagra. Which sounds great. Except, as as this article from Vox explains, the drug offers very minimal results (one additional “sexually satisfying event” per month) with a pretty high chance of side effects (low blood pressure, dizziness, fainting). Critics call the whole thing a marketing ploy by Big Pharma, just looking for a new product to sell.

Never too old for great sex is the theme of this article from Sharecare.com. It’s aimed at guys, but women may want to check it out, too. And whether male or female, do your Kegels while you read it, and you’ll both be better off…

I don’t know if it’ll come up this way on your browser, but on mine the post was accompanied by a huge ad for Cialis. I guess that’s Plan B if the article doesn’t help…

I went searching for reviews of dating sites for folks over 50, but really struggled to find a post that was clear, unbiased, and didn’t exist solely for affiliate marketing. Until I came across this interactive article from Liz Stock. Liz has laid it all out beautifully — click on the statement that best describes you and what you’re looking for, and you get a list of of relevant sites, details about them, and suggestions for using them best. Seriously, this is a great resource. And if you use it, please click the links she provides, as that helps her receive some compensation.

Have you used the “mainstream” sites like Match, e-Harmony, and OKCupid? How has that gone for you? I’ll note that Liz does not include Tinder. Are you using it? Is it working for you? Click below, and please tell your story in the Comments…