To Shave, or Not to Shave… That is the Question

Okay, we’re all adults here, right? So let’s speak frankly: Many Divorced Over 50 types went two or three decades with just one sexual partner, their spouse. (or, if they had other partners, perhaps that’s why they are now Divorced Over 50…). And in that time, certain styles, and trends, and norms have changed. Which, as we older folks begin new relationships that include intimacy, can cause some anxiety. As in, so what the hell am I supposed to do with my pubic hair?

Wanted to mix it up with a video about dating Over 50. And frankly, most of what’s out there is very amateurish, people just talking into the camera, not making a whole lot of sense, losing track of where they are in their list of points, even getting interrupted by barking dogs.

This video from 2ndAct.tv is a very well done, professional piece. It features a few men talking with an interviewer about what they’re looking for, and a group of women discussing their experiences with a (male) therapist. It’s worth the six minutes or so to take a look (and you won’t need your reading glasses!).

by Barry Gold
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To me, one of the hardest parts about being divorced is spending so much time alone. I know some people
love it; they don’t have to deal with anyone else, they can sit around in their underwear, they can unleash their bodily functions as the need strikes…

An easy solution, of course, is to get out of the house and do something. But a lot of people choose not to go by themselves, whether to a movie, a museum, out to eat, etc. They believe the activity won’t be as much fun if done solo, and also fear being seen by others as loners with few friends.

From the Ann Brenhoff of the Huffington Post, 25 Dating Turn Offs that come up when you’re Over 50. Can’t say any of these ever happened to me, and am proud to say I never committed any of these faux pas, either. (I actually checked, and the plural of “faux pas” is spelled the same as the singular. If you were saying it, though, singular is pronounced foh-PAH, while the plural is pronounced foh-PAHZ — see all the great info you get on this site?)

Regardless, it’s a cute, short piece, so check it out. Have you committed one of these? Or had one happen to you? Please discuss in the Comments on the next page by clicking Read More…

As we just dealt with improving male sexual response, it’s now the ladies’ turn (and we’ll pass up the obvious joke opportunities…). You may have heard that an FDA panel has recommended approval of the drug Flibanserin, popularly known as Female Viagra. Which sounds great. Except, as as this article from Vox explains, the drug offers very minimal results (one additional “sexually satisfying event” per month) with a pretty high chance of side effects (low blood pressure, dizziness, fainting). Critics call the whole thing a marketing ploy by Big Pharma, just looking for a new product to sell.

Never too old for great sex is the theme of this article from Sharecare.com. It’s aimed at guys, but women may want to check it out, too. And whether male or female, do your Kegels while you read it, and you’ll both be better off…

I don’t know if it’ll come up this way on your browser, but on mine the post was accompanied by a huge ad for Cialis. I guess that’s Plan B if the article doesn’t help…

Had dinner with my friend Andy last night. He’s in his sixties, looks and acts much younger. Widowed a few years ago, Andy’s begun dating, so we always compare notes. In fact, via Match.com, he was in touch with the same woman who had emailed me she looked great naked, but turns out neither one of us got the chance to confirm her opinion.

Passing by a CVS on the way to eat, Andy mentioned how awkward he feels going into a drug store to buy condoms. With all the choices available now, you need to carefully study the various packs, but the longer you stand there fondling the merchandise, the more embarrassing it is. Of course, as teenagers, having to ask the pharmacist for a pack was pretty embarrassing, too. Anyone else remember a particularly funny scene in the 1971 film, “Summer of ’42”?

To me, the easiest solution is to buy them on amazon. Read all the info on all the styles, read the reviews, make an informed decision from the comfort and privacy of your home.

Click below and use the comments section to tell us your condom stories, and your suggestions for buying them. And ladies, do you buy them, too? Please share on the next page…

Came across a blog called Head-Heart-Health, written by Katie Paul. She sounds like a really interesting woman, who’s been through a lot, but come out stronger and wiser.

She’s written a great four-part post on creating your best possible on-line dating profile. It’s aimed at women, but I think guys can profit from reading it, too. In fact, I wish I’d seen her piece before my own attempt at on-line dating.

“Today Show” Fourth Hour host Hoda Kotb turned 50 last year. Divorced in 2007 after a two year marriage, she convened a panel of 50ish women to discuss dating, and to get some expert advice. Article and video after the break…

by Barry Gold
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Three pillars of American journalism all agree: Gray divorce is a real thing. You already knew that, of course, or you wouldn’t be here. Links to the articles, and take-aways from them, on the next page…