Sex Education is a Lifelong Process

If the extent of your sex education was a health class in high school, consider yourself uneducated.

Here’s a piece offering five suggestions for keeping the sex going as we get older. The attached picture should tip you off to one of them.

The writer, Dr. Dorree Lynn, makes such a great point with Number One: Foreplay should start first thing in the morning and continue all day, as you express your affection for each other though words, caresses, and deeds. That paves the way for the trust and closeness that leads naturally to the intimacy. Other good ideas in the piece, too; check it out…

As if you needed more incentive, here are 9 reasons you should have more sex. Seriously, doctors and science-types contributed to this list. It’s totally legit. And look, it’s not only listed in our Dating, Romance, & Sex section, it’s even in the Health & Fitness section.

From Erica of A Sexy Woman of a Certain Age, a really interesting piece about the right way to have casual sex. Pointing out that casual sex isn’t the same as meaningless sex, Erica says it’s all about treating each other with dignity, honesty, and respect. She argues that everyone needs sex, but not everyone needs a serious, committed relationship. As long as both parties know the ground rules, the result can be a wonderful erotic mix of lust and integrity, and there’s nothing hotter than that.

Askmen.com is a website aimed at our twenty-something sons, not those of us Divorced Over 50. That being said, it still provides plenty of information we DO50’s can use.

For instance, here’s a piece, written by a woman, on five things women secretly want in bed. A few seemed obvious, while others were a bit surprising. But in case you think those surprising desires were a generational thing, here’s a piece by 50ish Katie Paul saying basically the same thing.

Kate McCombs and Louise Bourchier are two sex educators who have combined forces to create a series of videos on their favorite topic, baseball. No, just kidding, their videos answer the ten most frequently asked questions they get while conducting their workshops on sex.

There’s really no direct connection to being Divorced or Over 50, but it’s clearly information everyone can use, especially those of us who are DO50. Because after all, who’s having more sex than us, right? Right..? Am I right..? Bueller..? Bueller..?

Anyway, the video below is representative of the “Team Sex-Ed” collection. The entire series is here. Enjoy… and learn something…

Deborah Copaken is a best-selling author whose work has appeared in the New York Times, The New Yorker, The Wall Street Journal, and other leading publications. Writing for The Mid, she addresses dating at our age, answering the questions she hears so often from her married friends. Topics include how she finds dates, what she does on the dates, and, of course, sex.

Beyond the nuts-and-bolts, though, she expresses her philosophy about relations, love, and marriage with tremendous clarity, maturity, and honesty. This piece is not only perfect for our Di-Curious (Divorce Curious) users, it’s extremely valuable to any single person Over 50. In fact, in the long and illustrious life of Divorced Over 50 (two and a half weeks!), Deborah’s piece is the first to be declared a Must Read.

We all know the cliche about married couples almost never having sex. And many of us not only know it — we actually lived it in our marriages. Does the term “Roommates who raise children” resonate with anyone out there?

What about now as a Divorced Over 50? Is your sex life living up to your expectations?

If you’d like to be having more sex, with more partners, here’s a piece from High 50, a website in the United Kingdom, with ten suggestions for getting more action. As they say across the pond, Tallyho!

Most of us think of AARP as the organization that sells a Medicare supplement and offers a 15% discount at Outback Steak House. Who knew they were also there to teach men how to help their female partners reach orgasm?

Yep, this article says that men don’t “give” women orgasms; instead, men can help create the right environment that allows the woman to have an orgasm. And it offers six specific suggestions for doing just that.

Guys, you’ll find some good ideas to put into practice; and ladies, perhaps the article will help you identify what may be missing, and guide your partner toward meeting your needs.

Okay, we’re all adults here, right? So let’s speak frankly: Many Divorced Over 50 types went two or three decades with just one sexual partner, their spouse. (or, if they had other partners, perhaps that’s why they are now Divorced Over 50…). And in that time, certain styles, and trends, and norms have changed. Which, as we older folks begin new relationships that include intimacy, can cause some anxiety. As in, so what the hell am I supposed to do with my pubic hair?