10 Awful On-Line Dating Mistakes Guys Make
Guys, would you like to know ten things you absolutely must avoid in order to succeed at on-line dating?
Di-Curious
Holding On To Anger Only Hurts You
Are you still angry at your ex? Do you blame him or her for the divorce, and for other problems you’re currently encountering? Do you even fantasize about getting even, or making him or her “pay?”
Writing for yourtango.com, Cindy Holbrook offers Four Ways to Keep Divorce Anger From Eating Away at You. Her point, as you probably guessed, is that that anger is only hurting you — your ex could not care less. She says letting go of anger doesn’t mean you approve of what your ex may have done, it just means you won’t let him or her have that power over you.
If you haven’t been able to let go of those lingering feelings, definitely check out this piece.
Twofer: Dating Advice For Both Men and Women
Joe Seldner writes on a variety of topics for Huffington Post, but quite often about dating and romance for Over 50’s.
Here are two pieces from him, one on Dating Tips For Men Over 50, and Dating Advice For Women Over 50.
For the men, his advice is pretty basic: be positive and listen. His tips for women are more complicated, including topics such as body image, money, sex, and control. In other words, he seems to be saying men are simple, while women are complex. Anyone disagree?
The Friends — You’ll Win Some, and You’ll Lose Some
Going through a divorce means dividing up everything you acquired as a couple. The distribution of the financial assets is decided by mediation or court order; it can go easily, or be very difficult and painful. When it comes to dividing the friends, however, there is no controlling authority… and very often it’s filled with difficulty and pain.
Must Read: Dating Over 50
Deborah Copaken is a best-selling author whose work has appeared in the New York Times, The New Yorker, The Wall Street Journal, and other leading publications. Writing for The Mid, she addresses dating at our age, answering the questions she hears so often from her married friends. Topics include how she finds dates, what she does on the dates, and, of course, sex.
Beyond the nuts-and-bolts, though, she expresses her philosophy about relations, love, and marriage with tremendous clarity, maturity, and honesty. This piece is not only perfect for our Di-Curious (Divorce Curious) users, it’s extremely valuable to any single person Over 50. In fact, in the long and illustrious life of Divorced Over 50 (two and a half weeks!), Deborah’s piece is the first to be declared a Must Read.
You’re Entitled to Seek Happiness
From the women at 2ndAct.tv, a video discussion about moving forward after a divorce. It’s well worth the six minutes — check it out…
Don’t Make the Same Mistake Twice
Who’s seen this one before — your friend gets divorced, gets right into a new relationship, and fairly quickly remarries someone who’s almost exactly like his or her original spouse? It happens a lot. Which helps explain why so many second marriages fail, too.
Sex Life Not Meeting DO50 Expectations?
We all know the cliche about married couples almost never having sex. And many of us not only know it — we actually lived it in our marriages. Does the term “Roommates who raise children” resonate with anyone out there?
What about now as a Divorced Over 50? Is your sex life living up to your expectations?
If you’d like to be having more sex, with more partners, here’s a piece from High 50, a website in the United Kingdom, with ten suggestions for getting more action. As they say across the pond, Tallyho!
Losing Friends After Divorce: There is an Upside
There’s just no way around it: when you get divorced, some weird stuff is gonna happen with your friends. Some may side with you, some may choose your spouse, others may want nothing to do with either of you. Regardless, there’s an excellent chance your social life is going to take a hit.
This article from First Wives World suggests that your new found alone-time may actually be a good thing. And it argues that the friends’ reaction says more about them and their issues than it does about you and yours. As the name of the website suggests, the article is aimed at women, but there’s no reason men can’t benefit from checking it out as well.
Over 50 On-Line and Speed Dating
Most of us think of CNN as the place for 24 hour coverage of missing airliners, but here’s a story from its website on a topic that can be just as mysterious: on-line dating.
The writer, Ronni Berke, says she let her fear of something bad happening, like disappointment or heartbreak, keep her from even trying to meet new people. Finally, after seven years, she decided that avoiding any bad was also preventing any good. So she took the plunge, trying on-line and speed dating. She describes her experiences with both, and offers some tips about each.
Please use the Comments section to describe your experiences in the on-line and speed dating world. Did it work well for you, or was it a flop? Any suggestions for improving the odds?